So today’s Mouthy Monday is gonna be about something we all sadly have to face at some point in our lives. Whether it’s a dearly loved pet, friend or family member…losing someone we care about isn’t a nice thing to go through. And we all feel loss in different ways, the type of loss or how we cope with it doesn’t determine how great the loss…every loss is a painful and sometimes lonely time.
So I thought I’d share some tips on how to get through the period of time follows as best as you can. I’ve dealt with loss a few times in my life, a couple quite recently. I’ve lost pets and loved ones and each grieving period was different.
1. Don’t shut the pain away, let it out.
It’s a default of humans that when something hurts us, we try to avoid it. Lock it away so we don’t have to deal with it. But that ends up hurting us more. Get your pain out, if you have to cry then let them tears out. Write your feelings down if it helps too, do whatever helps you get the pain off your chest.
2. Talk to someone, surround yourself with good people. And avoid compassionate people.
If you feel you need to talk to someone, call up your best friend or whoever you trust and sit down and talk your heart out to them. But make sure it’s someone with compassion, it’s a sad thing but some people aren’t very compassionate about loss, maybe due to lack of understand. But you need to talk to someone who you know you can trust about this, someone who will listen to you and be a shoulder for you to lean on. Some people are like me, not very good at knowing what to say in a time of loss, but will happily let you talk your heart out till you feel better and be supportive in other ways.
3. Don’t habour any regrets. And remember the good times.
This is something I am often guilty of. When I lost my kittens, I pointed the blame at myself, I regretted not doing more for them…even though there was nothing more I could have done. And it’s the same any other loss, you sit and regret harsh words spoke, arguments you had and not spending enough time with them. STOP! There’s no point beating yourself up over something you can not change. Instead remember the good times you shared… the laughter, the smiles and the memories that will live on. These are things that mattered to them and will always matter to you.
4. Don’t forget to take care of yourself.
When dealing with something like loss, taking care of yourself often slips don’t your list of importance. But remember to take care of you, make sure you eat properly and keep active…you don’t want to run yourself down. Take time out from it all to relax and rewind…it’s a stressful time and no one will blame you for wanting a bit of you time.
5. Take as much time as you need.
As I mentioned at the start of the post, we all deal with loss in different ways. some people only grieve for a few weeks or less, others take longer. And each loss will be different, some will hit you harder than others. But don’t beat yourself up about how little or long you take, just take your time to deal with it in your way. Don’t let others dictate to you how much time is enough to get over it, because to be honest you never really get over a loss. You just manage to carry on and rebuild around it…and that’s OK.
So that’s my tips on dealing with a loss, and if you have any others tips you would like to share with everyone, leave a comment below or share on social media 🙂
Remember, your life is yours. Do things your way and do what makes you happy.
Till the next time,